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Wholehearted

by Steven Price, MA, LPCA

Have you ever ventured out or thought what it might mean to get your heart back?

That question usually stirs up one of two immediate reactions:

  1. Wow! How great would that be? or
  2. What do you mean? I never lost my heart!

The first is usually from men or women who have experienced pain in their lives and realize that they have never really fully recovered. Those pains can take many forms, but often include wounding moments experienced after our fathers or mothers, friends, coaches, or teachers made us feel diminished. As we experience a sense of betrayal by someone we admire and trust, we can often begin to cope in ways that we believe are helpful but that in fact simply mask the underlying vulnerability. Some of us forget about these deep, painful life paper cuts or bone-chilling slices as we get older, then are surprised when we over-react to a moment or seemingly small event.

The truth, however, is that those pains remain with us and they impact the way we relate to others. We may limit the effort we put into relationships for fear of being hurt, or we may hide behind a facade to project a brave or happy face. Others will become extremely outgoing or extremely shy. No matter how we arrange our outward appearance, there is nearly always something that lives just beneath the surface, whether it’s fear, shame, guilt, anger, or sadness, that is all-too-easily provoked.

Now, the second reaction usually comes from those who have the deepest wounds and therefore feel they need the boldest facades. Unfortunately, the same is still true for those men and women. There still seems to be this easily-provoked emotion just under the surface.

The treatment, or the goal of therapy, in either case is “wholeheartedness” – “getting your heart back.”

What does that look like? It’s a basic exchange… trade in the pain for healing. If each wounding moment we’ve experienced is stored in a proverbial basement within our hearts, then we have to get into that basement, take each sealed box down, look at the contents, expose the hurt, and determine what treatment is best (with the guidance of the Holy Spirit), and then exchange that hurt for God’s healing power.

Sounds easy, right? It is… and yet it’s not. To even begin takes courage. There is work involved, and it’s hard work. There may even be additional pain involved, but usually this is the good kind (if you believe there is such a thing). It’s the kind of pain that comes when you know Jesus is the one exposing the wound so that he can then bring healing. The most beautiful thing about it all is that when Jesus brings the healing, we know we are truly healed. We truly get our hearts back… we become more and more wholehearted. More who God created us to be.

Are you still dealing with hurts from your past? Are you putting forth a brave or happy face even though you know there is something just under the surface? If you have boxes stored in your basement that you need help exchanging — if you want to get your heart back so that you can live freely — call us at LifeCare Counseling & Coaching.

What is the True Cost of Freedom?


By Jerry Lankford, MBA, MACC, MDiv, LPCS

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,

because he has anointed me

to proclaim good news to the poor.

He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives

and recovering of sight to the blind,

to set at liberty those who are oppressed,

to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”  — Luke 4:18-19

These words are Jesus’ Mission Statement. The rest of the Luke demonstrates how he fulfilled this mission.

I am struck by the words, “He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives.”  These are words that resonate strongly with us as Americans.  Yet, isn’t it much riskier to be free than we realize?

Of course, one of the best examples would be prisoners. Prisoners long for freedom, yet when they are released, they quickly realize that they must now find a place to sleep, a job, and they must feed themselves.

These would be daunting tasks for someone who has lived his life with clarity and limited choice.  There has been a designated place to sleep, no choice. There were three meals a day, no multi-page menu.  There was an assigned job to do, minimal choice.

Freedom represents an opportunity to succeed. It also presents the chance to fail.  Is it a big wonder that many manipulate their circumstances to return to prison?  I would think it may seem safer.

The Israelites had the same experience when they left Egypt.  They longed for freedom, but when they “caught” it, they began to long for the good old days.  It is risky to be free.  In fact, the only way we can handle the risk is through faith.

In my counseling practice, I see many men and women who are in captivity.  They believe their current circumstance is safer.  Bluntly, it’s safer to stay the way I am than to change. This can apply to employment, depression, addictions, and relationships.

These fears force many of us to do nothing.  As captives, we endure lives of quiet desperation because we are afraid. Indeed, fear is a cause of the mental illnesses I encounter.  Freedom requires risk.  Risk costs us something.  Thus, Freedom can be pricey.  We can’t just sit back and wait for others to take care of us.

We fought the American Revolution to win our Freedom.  We know it’s worth it.

Are you willing to fight for your Freedom?

I think the lesson, the connection between the American Revolution and our own, is that both require a band of brothers or sisters around us to help us in that fight.  You need training and preparation, but you can be free.

Build your army.

When people you can trust support you in the battle for your life, you can cement your faith.  Then, step-by-scary-step, when the Son sets you free, you are free indeed.

When a Man Feels Lost, Step I is to Grab the Map

by Steven Price, MA, LPCA

We often see clients struggling with anger, sadness, stress at work or at home and even with violent outbursts toward others. There is a common thread shared among so many of them, especially when the clients are men. Many, many times, men say, “I feel lost” or “Something is missing” or “I just don’t know who I am.” This lostness or lack of identity is a very real concern, and with more men growing up without positive male role models in their lives, it is no wonder they struggle to identify who they are, who they need to be, and especially who they are meant to be.

As Christian counselors, we believe we KNOW who we are, and we know who these men are, too. Scripture tells us that we as men are all Beloved sons of Almighty God, and women are all Beloved daughters. This is true of ALL men, believers or not. The trouble is, many men do not know, or perhaps they do not believe, that this is true. Even Christian men struggle with this.

There are Christian men who believe that their identity lies in God, that they are beloved Sons, and this is critical. What we believe matters and it matters very much, but if men have never experienced the love of a good father, never experienced belovedness, they may struggle with their identity and with expressing themselves in loving ways.

As counselors who walk alongside men who are struggling with their identities and therefore struggling in their lives as sons, brothers, friends, husbands, and fathers, we want to first address the current behaviors by helping men deal with their anger, sadness, stress, or outbursts. But most important, we want men to know who they are and to begin to experience who they are so that they can then become who they are meant to be—wholehearted men, beloved sons, loving husbands, and amazing fathers, free from their previous struggles. This can be a wonderful journey, and the destination is definitely worth the effort.

The Silence of Adam

by Jeremy M. George, MA, LPCA

Plato said, “We can easily forgive a child when he is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy is when men are afraid of the light.” These words capture the essential truth of his famous “Allegory of the Cave.”  A profound social commentary, Plato exposes the tendency of humanity to settle for what is familiar, rather than to pursue the true nature of reality and adapt accordingly. As a clinical mental health counselor, I can tell you not much has changed in the millennia that have expired since Plato penned these fateful words.

The same tendency to settle for illusory shadows in Plato’s time is still very present in our time. Difficulty or failure to adapt to reality is a common theme in my work with adolescents and families. I believe that the negative outcomes that are associated with a families’ inability to adapt to reality can be mitigated substantially if fathers were better equipped to lead their families. Sadly, many are not.

As a youth pastor for just under two decades, and now as a mental health clinician, I have had many intimate conversations with men who have felt ill equipped to lead their families. A common theme most, if not all, had expressed in some way was the fear of being exposed. Some were harboring secret sin issues. Some feared being or appearing to be incompetent. Some preferred carefully constructed illusions over reality.  Very few were comfortable with admitting and confronting their weakness. Century after century men have developed sophisticated and intricate mechanisms in order to mask their weakness and to highlight their own sense of strength. This has been true of men in particular since the very beginning.

So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. – Genesis 3:6

You are probably overly familiar with this story, having heard it a million times in Sunday school. However, did you notice that directly after the Serpent told Eve a very cunning lie, Adam remained silent?

Rather than correcting the Serpent with the Truth of what God had indeed said, He remained silent.          Rather than acting in love and protecting his wife from the danger of the lie, Adam chose to remain passive. In the wake of this deafening silence, he led his wife away from the presence of the Lord.           After sowing fig leaves together for the both of them, they hid themselves, aware of their nakedness and afraid.

In my work with couples, I have found that this pattern, instituted at the very beginning by Adam and Eve, has been maintained in some way by every couple who has sat in my office. Unfortunately, many lies have already been told and believed by the time the couple gets to my office. With every lie, so too was manifest the opportunity to thwart these lies with the truth.  Regrettably, these opportunities are too often met with the silence of Adam.

Hope exists for the chronically silent and passive among us, however. The hope for all men in this regard is the reality that God did not remain silent and He did not choose to be passive. Take a look at what happened next in Genesis 3.

But the LORD God called to the man and said to him, ‘Where are you?’ And he said, ‘I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.’ He said, ‘Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?’ The man said, ‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.’ Then the LORD God said to the woman, ‘What is this that you have done?’ The woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate.’

It is instructive to observe how God responded to Adam. God asks three questions which reveal His heart for Adam as well as his perfect priorities. First, rather than expressing anger or disappointment He pursues Adam by asking the question, “Where are you?”

Second, God confronts Adam directly, giving him the opportunity to accept responsibility. Lastly, when Adam deflects and assigns blame to God and then to Eve, God confronts Eve directly.

I have often wondered how redemption history would be different, had Adam taken full responsibility and expressed humble repentance. We will never know. What we do know is that Adam chose to be passive, to avoid, and to deflect blame.

I also wonder how some of the marriages that sometimes fall apart in my office would fair if the men in those marriages refuse to be passive, to avoid or to deflect blame?

I just watched for the first time, “The Darkest Hour” starring Gary Oldman. His portrayal of Winston Churchill embodies the same kind of attitude I believe men should have about their wives, their children and their marriages. Unlike his predecessor Neville Chamberlain, Winston was uncompromising stating at one point during the film, “When will we learn that you cannot negotiate with a tiger when your head is in his mouth?” Likewise, men cannot be cavalier, dismissive, minimizing, passive and avoidant when it comes to the health of the physical, emotional, social and spiritual well-being of their wives, and their marriages. Threats to healthy marriages abound in this culture. It is inevitable that every marriage will be threatened in some way. It is the role of men to lead in this regard, expending whatever resources, internal or external, for the protection of their families.

Christian marriage was instituted by God Himself to portray to the watching world what He is like, and the kind of relational intimacy, safety and joy He desires to share with us. It is more than a tool which we can use to maximize our own happiness. It is a Christian man’s greatest apologetic to the world, and his best chance to proclaim the Gospel with his life. It is sacred, it is holy and it is worth fighting for.

If you find yourself in a marriage that is being threatened from within or without, don’t believe the lie of self-sufficiency. You do not have to have all the answers, and you do not need to possess within yourself the strength necessary to defeat potential threats.

God wants to give you His Spirit who makes perfect His strength in our weakness. He has given you a helper, who is in the sinking boat with you and who is more capable and willing than you know. God has also called a small army of counselors in the RDU area who provide expertise, support and encouragement along the way to restoration. I am so grateful to the LORD to be counted among them. I know that I speak for all the counselors here at LifeCare in that regard.

When the Past is a Weight on Our Shoulders

by Steven Price, MA, LPCA

 

For many, weight loss seems like a never ending battle against the scale. One day we are down a pound, the next we are up two. There are a great many challenges that keep us from reaching our goals such as daily stresses at work or in life, a lack of time for exercise, a lack of understanding about nutrition, or simply unhealthy eating habits. I’m afraid there are challenges that many never realize they are battling against as well: wounds from the past, unresolved grief, loneliness, just to name a few.

Many who suffered in childhood (separation from parents, divorce, bullying, or worse) continue to suffer into adulthood. If not healed, childhood wounds can linger, negatively impacting nearly every aspect of a person’s life including his or her work, health, emotional wellbeing, friendships, or romantic relationships. We may find ourselves living less and eating more.

The Bible says that Jesus came so we may have and experience an abundant life, or life to the full (John 10:10b), but many of us have experienced the opposite of that. Why? Because, as Jesus said in John 10:10a, “the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy” and many of us are still living with the wounds that came at such a young age.

God wants to heal those broken or wounded places in each and every one of us, but sometimes we need a little help along that healing journey.

Whether our experiences have left us struggling with anxiety, depression, unhealthy weight gain, or unhealthy eating habits, partnering with a counselor can help you not only see, but reach the light at the end of the tunnel.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) are often used with individuals struggling with such hardships. These therapies often work well when symptoms include unhealthy weight gain and unhealthy eating habits ranging from erratic relationships with food to actual eating disorders, such as binge-eating disorder (BED). Many believe that if they aren’t suffering from a specific or diagnosed eating disorder that they do not have a problem with food, but there are many individuals who use food in an unhealthy way to cope with life rather than choosing healthier outlets, including counseling and healing. Healing from their pasts and teaching men and women better coping mechanisms can greatly impact the trajectory of their lives—including improving overall health, wellness, weight, and happiness.

Whether you are struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, wounds, or grief, there is help. By seeking good therapy and coaching from proven and effective counseling practices, we can partner together to not only heal the broken heart, but to set you on a path to greater health and happiness.

The first step is to have a conversation. We’re here for you, and we’ll walk with you throughout the journey to get rid of the unwanted weight and worry.  Just call 1-919-851-1527.  We’ll move forward together.

Why Couples Fight and How to Refocus on Good Stuff

By Jerry Lankford, MBA, MACC, MDiv, LPCS

 

Relationships are complicated.

We come together seeking to share our lives with another person and needing to feel loved.  We want to be supportive, responsive and make our best friend happy. Why do we end up fighting?

One way to explore the problem is through the lens of Attachment.

We all need to feel that someone has our back. That is how we can take the risks necessary to explore opportunities and succeed in life.  When someone is supportive, we can risk failure.  When I go for that new job, it helps to know that – no matter what – my spouse will be there to encourage me.  She will celebrate with me when I succeed.  She will hold my hand when I don’t.

In children, we see this operate very clearly.  A secure child explores their world without fear.  They play and interact without difficulty.  An anxiously attached child becomes fearful if mom or dad leave the room, and they become upset until they return.  An avoidant child may show no external emotion when left but will become angry and punishing as soon as the adult returns. This plays out in adult relationships as well.

An Anxious spouse may complain that you are never home, or you don’t do anything to help around the house.  What they may really be saying is: I’m afraid you don’t love me or that you may leave me.

An Avoidant spouse, meanwhile, may respond by spending extra time at work.  At work, they feel they get rewarded for the things they do. To these individuals, it seems that home is a place where they never do anything right.  Thus, at home, they withdraw and avoid the conflict.

Life can become a downward spiral where one spouse complains and the other withdraws or responds with anger.  Is this any way to live? Of course not, yet the solution often requires a bit of retraining to unlock and release a new way to partner.

How did we get here? We both just want to be loved!

This is where the trained therapist helps.  Once we are guided by the right professional to figure out what we really need, not just the superficial stuff that we seem to talk about, we begin to reconnect and learn that we really are loved by our partner. Then, we can learn how to respond to a relationship stressor in a way that is helpful rather than harmful.  Each couple has a unique mix of responses that will work to build friendship, trust, loyalty and deeper support – the interdependency of true love.  A trained therapist helps the couple unlock that communications support structure.

When Christmas isn’t Merry

This is the time of year when we celebrate the birth of Jesus, give gifts, and enjoy friends and family. It can be a wonderful time, but for some it’s a depressing time.

Today, I was playing tennis with a group and overhead a discussion by a couple of women from the other team. One of the women had been married for 25 years, but recently separated from her husband and was facing Christmas and New Year’s alone. Her friend was inviting her to spend time with them. A great idea!

Special times of the year are times when depression can be worst as we face losses. One family just lost their daughter, another a parent or spouse.

We can help by being sensitive to these people and making sure they are included in our activities. Allow them to talk about their losses and encourage them to remember the good times. Ask them to show you pictures or tell you stories.

Don’t tell them not to be sad or to cheer up. It doesn’t help and simply makes them feel worse that they can’t do what you asked.

Scripture can be a comfort as we think of our loses. Recently, I have been remembering the fellowship we have in Christ suffering when we suffer. Ironically, suffering is a gift because it draws us closer to Christ and allows us to identify with him. We receive His comfort as we suffer so that we can share Him with others.

I talked with two different men this week who had both lost grown sons this year. Both of these sons were lost tragically in the prime of their life due to illness. How do you console men who have lost their sons? All I could do was remind them that God had lost his only son as well. He understands and shares their pain.

I pray that you have a joyous Christmas, and that you will also love those you know who aren’t having such a Merry Christmas.

Therapy Helps You Cope with Stress

Have you ever asked God for something – something good, something within God’s will – and yet the answer was…no? Have you struggled with what to believe and how to feel when God doesn’t fix something broken in your life? If so, I’ve been there too, and am still there. I’ve prayed for years begging God to fix “it”, but it’s not been fixed. At times, I’ve visualized myself crawling up onto the lap of God, feeling His tenderness and nearness, asking Him to fix it – and the answer has still been “no.” At other times, I distanced myself from God, in confusion, asking Him “why?” He won’t fix it when He has the power to do so and I heard nothing in return. I’ve struggled with questioning where God is in the midst of my pain and suffering when I don’t feel His nearness, wondering if He cares and is as good as I thought He was.

This struggle of God “not fixing it” has led me on a journey I never wanted to go on. But as promised in James 1:3-4, “The testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its course so that you may be mature.” If I’m honest with myself, I want the maturity, but I’d rather pass on the pain and whole idea of persevering through it. But I don’t get that choice. I experience the pain and brokenness regardless, and it’s my choice whether or not I mature from it. As one author wrote, “The wilderness is part of the landscape of faith, and every bit as essential as the mountaintop. On the mountaintop we are overwhelmed by God’s presence. In the wilderness we are overwhelmed by his absence. Both places should bring us to our knees; the one, in utter awe; the other, in utter dependence.”

Truths You Can’t Live Without:

The book When God Doesn’t Fix It by Laura Story has been instrumental in helping me make sense of the brokenness in my life, and many words and ideas listed below are taken directly from her book.

  1. I don’t have to understand it, and that does not change the goodness of God.

In fact, He never once promises me that I will understand it. And what makes me think that in my finite mind – where I can barely grasp basic concepts of physics or geometry – I could make sense of even a fraction of the mind of God? I was reminded of this truth the other day when I was driving with my three year-old son and we passed by a church with a large steeple that towered high into the sky. From the back seat, I hear him pipe up, “Momma, will you please pull over and let me jump off of that steeple?” To him, that seemed like a perfectly legitimate request. I, on the other hand, was thinking more about the landing rather than the jumping. As I tried to explain to him that we would not be jumping off the steeple today (or any other day for that matter), he of course followed up with the question, “Why not?” while proceeding to cry and scream the rest of the way home. I tried to explain that gravity was this invisible sticky stuff that holds us to the ground, but it did not appear to help his perspective of the situation. All he knew was that he had a desire – and to him, it was a good desire. From his perspective, I was being mean and restrictive, withholding something “good” from him. However, as his mom, I had a totally different perspective. I want him to experience good things, but I also know it is my responsibility to protect him, even from the things that he doesn’t understand he needs protection from. This concept began to sink in for me as I applied it to my relationship with God. From my perspective, I am asking for something that appears to be good. But God has a totally different perspective, that I must trust is good and protective, without understanding it from my limited perspective.

            2. Asking “WHY” is essential, but it’s important to not get stuck there. We ask why believing the answer will provide us with some kind of deep soul satisfaction, which may never come. God doesn’t promise answers, but He does promise that our broken stories will find their greater purpose in light of His greater story. If I get stuck only asking WHY this happened, I would never see HOW God was working in me. I’ve learned that it’s ok to stay in the WHY as long as necessary, but don’t stay stuck there because it only brings more pain and sorrow. Get to the point of being able to say “I don’t understand why my life looks this way, but I don’t have to understand why.” There is freedom found in not having all the answers, especially the WHY answer. It’s essential to move from asking “Why” to asking “How”:

            How might God use my current trial to glorify Himself?

            How might God use my weakness, infirmity or disability to display His power?

            How might God use my hard circumstance to show me something about Himself?

            How might God use my hard circumstance to show me something about myself?

            How might God use my pain for a purpose?

            How might God make this mess into a message?

            How might God use my current chaos to help me grow in walking by faith, not by sight?

            How might God use my situation to show me that true peace is found only in Him?

            3. When experiencing disappointment with God, it’s essential to ask “Where does the disappointment come from?”  The disappointment seems to imply that there was some sort of promise or commitment that God didn’t follow through on. See if you can identify the promise you are claiming in the Bible.  The betrayal and disappointment you feel is real, but the promises you thought God broke are not real.  Therefore, the disappointment didn’t come from God breaking a promise but from my own false expectations. “Should” is a word of expectation.

God didn’t promise that we wouldn’t have trials, He promised that He would be there when we did experience trials and that He’d never leave. What if there are blessings that God offers that are greater than just a pain-free life?

            4. God uses stories that don’t have a happy ending. How many times have you heard testimonies that begin with a trial, include lots of prayer and then have a miraculous ending? I certainly have, and there have been times when I’ve thought to myself, “I wish my story could end like that, and it’s not worth telling until it does – if it does.” I don’t know about you, but for me there’s something refreshing about hearing someone take the huge risk of being vulnerable and sharing – not that they have struggled – but are struggling with something. It makes me think, “Yea, me too.” It creates a sense of togetherness, like-mindedness and even normalcy in what I’m experiencing. I struggle with believing that I have to have my story all together – and God figured out – before it will have purpose or meaning. I am learning that my brokenness that is not yet healed may never be healed on this side of heaven; however, this promise remains – God has used, is using, and will use all of it for His glory. Sometimes the stories that don’t have a happy ending are the ones that can minister deeply to the soul of the person sitting right next to you. Don’t let one tear be wasted by fearing that God can’t use your story right now, regardless of what the ending may be.

Erin Bland, MSW, LCSW
Erin.Bland@lifecarecc.com
(919) 851-1527

The Relationship Dance

Relationships can be hard. Some more than others. With each person we find ourselves moving to a different dance and doing our best to follow the steps, but recognizing we might step on toes or not know the way everytime?  There is grace (hopefully) as we learn and grow together, but sometimes this is not always the case. Sometimes we must leave the dance and realize we gave it our best shot. When we feel hurt too often we choose to end the dance. We can watch the person dance with others from afar or we can cut ties completely. Ending a dance entirely is not a bad thing either. Sometimes “releasing” another individual is the best way to show them we care for them and ourselves.

So how do we handle the more difficult dances? The confusing ones we don’t understand? Often we find these relationships at work or in our extended families…with our neighbors or possibly at our children’s sports team events. These are the relationships we can’t truly avoid and we awkwardly tip toe or stomp around these people each time we see them. We admit we can’t be ourselves around these folks and often times don’t know what to do except hide and grumble or hold our heads up high, pridefully.

In marriage, our dance may be difficult when we go through hard times like when finances are tight. We each try to lead the relationship or control which way to turn. Both partners are left feeling frustrated and stubborn and ultimately hurt that they feel misheard. The dance was so fun at first? What happened?

Difficult dances are not a bad thing. They challenge our character and remind us of our brokenness in this chaotic world. They help us to reflect and take into consideration the things we may need to work on personally. Negative emotions may surface like frustration or anger -which is okay. We are each human. The problem is when we decide to stay in this emotion and give-up. The issue becomes when we never truly reflect on our own self and ask questions like, “Where can I take responsibility in the dance?” or “When did I move and should have waited or not moved at all?” Self-reflection is crucial in relationships and forgiveness should be the goal (and just a reminder, forgiveness does not mean forgetting).

Relationships each move in a different way because we are each different. God made us this way. In Psalm 139:13 it says,

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.”

Every single piece of you and I was made intentionally- with love and ownership. God knew you before you were even concieved because He is your Creator. Your greatest love. He is crazy about you. In this love, He also gave you free will. The ability to make choices and honor Him in those decisions. He helps us along the way if we are vulnerable enough to see our need for Him. He also is patient-loving and waits on our return to Him when we don’t let Him in…this pains His heart. Like a shepherd and his sheep (Jn 10:11). Like a loving Father, He protects.

The world is full of unique individuals of all groups and backgrounds and two things remain the same for us all:

-God is our Creator

-God loves us all

As we enter into our dances with one another, some intimate and some more surface-like, we find ourselves looking to a God who is perfect and who authored THE dance. The original dance with the best leader. The dance that reminds us of our need for Him. The dance which reveals His goodness, hope and heart for His children. It’s fun and inviting, warm and safe.

The more we dance with our Creator, the better we dance with others…and the better we dance with others, the better this world will be. 

“Let Israel be glad in his Maker; Let the sons of Zion rejoice in their King. Let them praise His name with dancing; Let them sing praises to Him with timbrel and lyre. For the Lord takes pleasure in His people; He will beautify the afflicted ones with salvation.…”

-Psalm 149: 2-4

 

Ashley Wright, MA, LPC-A

Ashley.Wright@lifecarecc.com

1601 Jones Franklin Road
Suite 104
Raleigh, NC 27606

Christian Counseling

At LifeCare Counseling and Coaching, professional therapy and faith intersect comfortably. Indeed, Christ heals all sorrows. The Grace of God is undeniable and incontrovertible. Yet, sometimes people are overcome by the afflictions of the world. In those times, there’s no shame in turning to community for support. The sad news is that some may feel embarrassed and/or ashamed and choose to suffer a growing illness in silence. In those cases, it may be essential for Christians to seek counseling from a professional counselor outside of their church. The priority, of course, is to encourage healing and ensure excellent care.

LifeCare Counseling and Coaching is comprised of fully licensed, Christ-centered counselors. Professional family and marriage counselors and psychologists help clients set goals and connect spiritual growth with life. We also have a psychiatrist here for those situations where the brain’s chemistry needs a nudge in order to find the right balance. All of us have additional and complementary education as Christian counselors. Some of us even have additional degrees in theology.

We adhere and are held accountable to the rigorous standards imposed on licensed practices, we are able to accept insurance, and we are certified Christian counselors. What’s more, we work tirelessly to honor your church’s traditions, and we work are happy to team with your pastor if you wish.

If you have any need to refer a member to a counseling service, we certainly pray you will feel invited to seek us out. We are here to serve you, pray with and for you, your family and your neighbors, and carefully serve, respect, and protect everyone who comes to us.

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